Sex Therapy in California
Taking the Risk to Explore Yourself, yOur Deepest Desires, and Unlearn the Shame
I offer online sex therapy in California for individuals and couples navigating desire, intimacy, sexuality, and relationships.
When Sex Starts to Feel Complicated
Maybe you care deeply about your partner, but something has shifted in your sex life. You want to feel close, desired, and connected, but instead you're avoiding conversations about sex, having the same arguments, or feeling pressure around intimacy.
Maybe you're experiencing differences in desire or libido. Sex has become infrequent, disconnected, or something you feel obligated to have. You might be questioning what you want, struggling to communicate your needs, or trying to understand how stress, identity, relationship dynamics, or past experiences are affecting your sexuality.
You may not even know exactly what's wrong. You just know that something feels different, and you want things to feel different.
Let's Get Curious About What's Really Going On
Together, we'll explore your patterns, get clearer about what you want and need, and create more space for honest conversations about sex, desire, boundaries, pleasure, and intimacy.
You can learn to talk about the things that feel difficult to say out loud, navigate differences without turning them into blame or rejection, and make choices that honor both connection and autonomy.
The goal isn't to perform a version of intimacy that you think you should want. It's to better understand yourself and create a sex life and relationships that feel more authentic to you.
I also work with individuals navigating compulsive or problematic sexual behavior, including concerns about pornography or sexual behaviors that are affecting their relationships, work, finances, or sense of well-being.
Talking About Sex May Feel Taboo, But Not in My Practice
You might be navigating:
Desire & Intimacy
Differences in desire • Libido differences • Sexual disconnection • Sexless relationships • Rebuilding intimacy
Communication & Connection
Difficulty talking about sex • Feeling unwanted or rejected • Boundaries • Fantasies
Sexuality & Pleasure
Pleasure • Sexual identity • Exploring what you want
Sex & Relationships
Pornography • Compulsive or problematic sexual behavior • ENM
sex therapy in California
Who it’s for: Sometimes Sex Is Easier to Talk About With a Sex Therapist
You may already have an individual therapist you trust. But when it comes to sex, intimacy, desire, or relationship concerns, you might not feel comfortable bringing it up, or you may want a space specifically focused on these parts of your life.
That’s where sex therapy can help.
What’s included: 50-minute virtual, one-on-one sex therapy sessions held weekly at a consistent time. Sessions are collaborative and tailored to what you’re working through, whether that means exploring desire and arousal, intimacy, sexual confidence, understanding patterns in your sexual relationships, working through shame or past experiences, or becoming more confident communicating what you want, need, and enjoy.
FAQs
how do i know if i need sex therapy?
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If concerns around intimacy, desire, communication, or sexual well-being are causing stress in your life or relationship, sex therapy can help. Therapy can create more intentionality around sex which often is lacking in long term relationships. You don't have to wait until things feel like a crisis to seek support.
Do sexologists sleep with patients?
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No. Ethical sex therapists never engage in sexual contact with clients. Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on education, exploration, skill-building, and helping you develop a healthier relationship with yourself, your partner, and your sexuality.
How much does sex therapy usually cost?
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My current rates are listed on my website. Individual sessions are $200, and couples sessions are $250.
How many sessions of sex therapy do I need?
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There's no one size fits all answer. Some clients find relief in just a few sessions, while others benefit from longer-term work. We'll create a plan based on your goals and adjust it as you make progress.
Can I attend sex therapy individually, or do I need a partner?
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Absolutely. I work with both individuals and couples. Whether you're exploring your own relationship with sexuality or working through challenges with a partner, therapy is tailored to your unique needs.
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